It can be difficult to identify behavior that is inappropriate, but not necessarily sexual abuse. You may see or hear something that is unsettling or has some kind of sexual energy. A situation may make you uneasy or just not feel right. And although you have no reason to believe that sexual abuse has happened, you are still concerned.

For example:

• You discover a teacher has been exchanging emails and text messages with your 14-year-old son, without your or the school’s knowledge.
   
• You overhear your 15-year-old daughter using sexually-explicit language around much younger kids.

When faced with a troubling situation, ask yourself:

• Does this make me uncomfortable?
• Does it seem odd?
• Would it concern someone else?

Remember, inappropriate behaviors can not only make children uncomfortable, but may also be part of the grooming process.

If you are hesitant to respond, ask yourself:

• Why am I reluctant to act?
• What's the worst that could happen if I'm wrong?
• What if I'm right?

While confronting these behaviors can be difficult, the well-being of children must always come first. Intervening sends a clear message that you are paying attention, can help prevent abuse, and lets children know they are worth protecting. 

Helpful Resources:

• Let's Talk: Adults Talking to Adults about Child Sexual Abuse, published by Stop It Now!^®—a national, non-profit child protection and prevention center.
   
•  STEP UP: Protect Children from Sexual Abuse, published by the Vermont Department for Children and Families.